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Loner or Groupie?


People are all different. If you think about it though, they fall into two main categories: loners, and groupies.

Are you a loner? Do you like your own company better than that of others? Are you independent, happy to spend time alone,  thinking and musing, or doing solitary activities? Do you like the quietness of nature? Do you easily amuse yourself with thoughts and puzzles, hiking, fishing, or walking alone?

A lot of well adjusted people are solitary types and love to be that way.

But some hate spending time alone. I’ve heard them say, “It’s too quiet. I’m lonely. I’m bored. I’m afraid to be alone, especially at night.”

Nothing makes them happier than when company is coming.


And then there are those who HAVE to be with a lot of “friends” or even just in a crowd. They say it makes them feel good when they’re surrounded by people. Life is one big party, and when the band goes home for the night, the groupies still want to continue being together, seeking each other’s approval in almost everything they think or do. “Wait for me! I just have to check how many ‘Likes’ I have on my blog.”

Photo: Courtesy of Paul Knettig.

Whichever category we lean towards, loners or groupies, maybe we’re just like the rest of the animals on this planet.


Author: wordsfromanneli

Writing, travel, photography, nature, more writing....

27 thoughts on “Loner or Groupie?

  1. It varies on my case as per my mood

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  2. There are times when I am content to be alone and other times when I want to be with my friends. I think one needs to satisfy both needs to lead a balanced life.

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  3. I know I am a loner, and gladly accept everything that comes with it. I spend a great deal of my day reading and writing, and can’t think of anything I would rather do. My husband understands that I need time alone, and thankfully accepts it and lives ‘around’ it. I do require a setting that nurtures me, however. I think being a loner in a city would be difficult. Thanks for introducing this topic, Anneli!

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  4. Since I was a child, I’ve always enjoy my alone time.

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  5. I like people, and enjoy being around them, but more than a quarter century of living alone and working alone out on the docks has encouraged my tendencies toward solitude. Add in the fact that writing of any sort is a solitary pursuit (at least for me — spare me the writers’ groups at cafés!) and that I prefer to go out alone with my camera, and it’s a pretty solitary, though not lonely life.

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  6. “maybe we’re just like the rest of the animals on this planet.” – If we were, we would take better care of it.

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  7. Great photography Anneli, so nice you gave Paul credit for his “action” at the beach photo. Solitude in nature is calming to my spirit and I cherish our morning walk in East Lazo Forest. I enjoy socializing, it is very stimulating. We benefit with balance. Thanks for the thoughtfulness for perspective in our lives.

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  8. I agree with the English Professor’s comment. I need both. Balance is a vital thing in my life. I tend to panic when things go out of balance, which I often blame on my astrological sign (Libra = scales, balance).

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  9. I’m mostly a loner, but I do like to be with other people now and then.

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  10. It’s lone gull for me. Terrific photo too.

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  11. I think there are 3 types, actually. “Loners” and “groupies” and true leaders. I am a loner or more accurately independent.

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  12. Yes, and there are all kinds of people in between. Sometimes it’s fun to have a closer look at what kind of characters we all are.


  13. Well said, Anneli. Beautiful photos!

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  14. I am a loner most of the time, but once in a while I like to be with others – just for a little while.
    Nice pictures again!

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